What make the best birthday surprises?
(For a 2 or 82 year old??)
“That’s enough!” said (CHILD’S FIRST NAME)
(Who’d had enough of the BOOs)
“That’s not the surprise
That most kids would choose
They want (CHILD’S FAVOURITE BIRTHDAY GIFT)
A party, friends and cake
Lots of fun things
To play with and make”
(from “Your Child’s Name and The Birthday Boo” personalised book by TickledMoon)
Our first foray into the children’s, personalised, book market “The Birthday Boo” is all about a lovable, hairy monster who turns up to surprise your child on their birthday. However, the surprise he gives is not at all what the child wants or was expecting (although it all turns out well in the end…). So it got me to thinking about the best birthday surprises and what makes them work?
It can be daunting to come up with the perfect present and to make it a welcome surprise. It’s all well and good if you’ve got the cash to splash on a big day out – driving round a race track, hot air ballooning, theatre trip etc. – all fantastic fun, but if money is limited, what else can you do to delight and genuinely surprise your 2 year old boy or 82 year old grandma?
Best birthday surprises for under 10s
Starting with the under 10s – for a genuine surprise, the bigger the present, the better. And that doesn’t mean it has to be expensive. Even if what you’re buying isn’t huge, finding a large cardboard box to put it in would certainly provide the birthday surprises factor. You could then pad it out with things kids love – balloons, balls, bubble wrap (I remember my boys spending many a happy hour popping that…) The best bit about this is the box itself – don’t throw it away as this is often more fun than the gift it contains. You can check out 50 amazing ideas for cardboard boxes here that small kids will love.
The birthday cake
And it doesn’t always have to revolve around the present. The birthday cake – the centrepiece of any respectable birthday – can be a wonderful surprise to young and old. This selection of easy birthday cake ideas look delightful and appear reasonably simple to make. But if (like me) you’re never going to cut it on ‘Bake Off’, decorating a very basic all-in-one cake, either homemade or shop bought, with a child’s favourite small toy and some ready-made writing icing to personalise it, always goes down well.
Tweenies and teenies best birthday surprises
For children over 10, the surprise presents tend to be the reverse of the under 10s – that is, the smaller the better – with more focus on a gadget of some description. And I’m not sure that big, over the top surprises are the order of the day at this age, as they tend to embarrass rather than delight. But that doesn’t mean to say that you can’t do something for them that will touch them in some way.
At this age, their friends are EVERYTHING so organising something with them is probably one of the best things you can do for birthday surprises. Sleepovers are cost effective and can be spiced up with an activity – pampering, a movie, camping or sports and games. Just make sure they’re safe and have enough food and then keep respectfully out of the way (I’m still perfecting the art of hovering just enough to make sure they’re ok and behaving themselves, to not being a total embarrassment to them…).
Parcel in the post
I have one amazing friend who always sends a parcel for my boys through the post. In this day and age, that is pretty unique – if friends/relatives do send gifts, it’s inevitably cash or a voucher. So a brown paper package arriving is always a delicious surprise, at any age. Taking the time to provide a gift suggestion to a long distance friend or relative is really worth it (and they don’t even have to wrap it or post it themselves as most online stores can do all of that for them.)
Surprise birthday parties?
Surprise birthday parties can be a double edged sword I’ve found. Firstly managing to keep it a surprise is a challenge and then making sure that you pitch it right – the number of guests, the location, the time etc. – for the age of the birthday celebrant. But when it works, it can be a once in a lifetime joyful event that they’ll never forget. So if it does seem appropriate, there’s an excellent WikiHow step by step guide to planning one here.
Best birthday surprises for adults?
The key here is knowing the recipient and really thinking about what pleases them. Sounds obvious I know, but I’ve lost count of the number of presents I’ve seen given which delight the giver more than the receiver…
A box of delights works for all ages. I was struggling to think of something for a dear friend’s 50th recently, as she pretty much has everything she needs. I couldn’t afford to spend a fortune, but wanted to give her ‘something’ that showed how much she meant to me. So I filled a box with wrapped up ‘somethings’ – something sparkly, something funny, something practical, something yummy etc. It was great fun for her to open, she was genuinely touched by the thought that went into it and it didn’t cost the earth.
Another personal gift that is very cost effective and will always delight is a framed photo, piece of artwork, poem or letter, that has been written or painted to celebrate them. We all want to be loved, and being reminded of it by someone we care about is both moving and humbling.
And for those in the twilight years?
It’s not so easy to surprise and delight someone who’s seen 80 or so birthdays, but there are still ways. Family tends to be so important and valued at this age and wanting to feel that you’ve made a positive difference to them. So celebrate their life in some way – photo books are great for this, especially if they have old photos tucked away in a box that never get looked at. It’s easy now to digitalise them for this. Or ask friends and family to fill in a ‘This is Your Life’ book, with treasured thoughts, memories, pictures and anecdotes. I always think it’s a bit sad that the only time we voice in any detail how much someone meant to us is after they’ve passed away. So why not do it sooner, when they can really see how much of a difference they’ve made to your life?
For my mum’s 80th birthday, we arranged for her much beloved sister, who lived on the other side of the world, to fly over without her knowing. I will never forget the joy of the moment when she opened the front door to see her standing there. It doesn’t have to involve long haul travel – a surprise visit from a dear friend or family member is wonderful at any age. But if that’s too pricey for all involved, setting up an unexpected video call can also touch and bring joy to any birthday.
So there you have it, hopefully a few more ideas to inspire your next birthday surprises. To sum up, my feeling is that they should be joyful and fun, but most of all make sure that they suit the age and interests of the receiver and that above all, it will show them how much they are loved and treasured by those nearest and dearest to them.